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“Four Words to Transform Your Life”

Posted on : August 31, 2012 |

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“Transform Your Life”

the first three words to transform your life all begin with “C”.  What “C” words am I speaking of and how will they transform your life.  Why they are Clarity, Courage and Commitment.  These three words when used and implemented correctly will create a huge shift in your world.  The fourth word we will talk about at the end is alignment.

Here is an exercise you can do to transform any situation and create freedom in your life.  You can do this with another person or by yourself with a pen, paper if you choose.

If you do this with another person when doing the exercise look them in the eye the whole time as you are speaking.  Have them assist you in making eye contact.  You can also do this exercise with pen and paper or looking into a mirror when you speak.

 

 

Example of How to Transform Your Life With Clarity

Let’s start with Clarity.  How I am using Clarity here is an identifier of your desires.  What is that you truly desire not just the little thing to have you survive in your existence for another week.  What do you truly desire to have in your life.  Think big here, dream big, play big.  What you may find what your truly say you desire, you may notice you are afraid to say, you may think this is too big and I can’t have really have it.  For right now just pretend you really.  Play in your imagination that you have your abundance or your harmonious relationship with your former partner, your children, boss etc.  Imagine you have a really great relationship with yourself, where you talk to yourself kindly and supportive.   Imagine you are speaking to yourself in the way what you desire to hear.  Imagine the tone and the words you desire to hear.

Notice if in doing this exercise if you feel any emotions.  What do you feel?  Say to yourself I feel ____ and write that down.  Now remember when did you feel that way before?  When was the first time?  Write your memory down as if it is happening right now in the present tense.  Write who is with you what is being said, what is the light in the room, is it warm or cold?  Go into as much detail as possible.  Feel what is there in your body.  Is the emotion anger, sadness, hate?  Whatever it is feel it and notice what happens to your body.  How long have you been holding that emotion there running in the background of your memories?  It may show up in unexpected outbursts here and there and then gets ignored until the next outburst.

This is where Courage takes place.  Have the Courage to stay and experience whatever is there.   As you notice your emotions notice their costs.  Maybe you feel tired, depressed a lower level of energy at this time.  Those blocked emotions are costing you your life vitality.  Once you recognize the cost to you, ask yourself who can I forgive in this situation?  Maybe it is your parents, former partner, children?   Maybe even the person to forgive is you.  Write down who you are to forgive and say it out loud stay and explore what emotions come up.  Maybe you say I forgive my dad and then get specific for what you forgive.  Say the same thing over and over until you feel on the inside that what you say and feel match.   This will happen with repetition.  Once you have made your shift of feeling your truly forgive the person see what is there.  In other words how do you feel about them/ you now.  Repeat this out loud until you feelings align with your words again.

Now for the fun part Commitment.  I hear people say I don’t like to commit.  I don’t want to commit.  My response to them is wow you are really committed to being non-committed.  So everyone is committing to something even if they think they aren’t.  Here you are going to Consciously Commit to something new for you!  Ask yourself after you have done the previous exercise imagine what is new and different for you.  Imagine having forgiven your dad and what is different two years from now for both you and him.  Commit to really doing this!  Commitment is the cement that holds your new choice in place.  Once you are clear in your new choice, ask yourself what three things did I do first that I didn’t want to do to give myself this gift.  Now commit to doing those things as quickly as you can.  Write them down put a date and time for their completion and commit to them.  The faster you make those changes the faster your shift occurs.  When those are done ask yourself what are my next three things to do.  While you are doing them stay in your feeling of how you imagine your feelings when you have shifted.

Now what is Alignment and how do I know when I am aligned with my new choice?  The easiest way for me to recognize whether I am emotionally aligned with what I am saying is it to speak out loud to someone.  For example if you have an issue with paying your bills on time.  Make a statement using present tense out loud “I pay my bills on time”.   Repeat this and notice whether your voice quivers or what emotions you are feeling.  Maybe you notice a voice in your head saying that’s not true.  Whatever is going on talk right through the sabotages and keep repeating your new statement until you align.  Once you feel relief from your statement say how you now feel with your new choice in place.  Your “job” is to stay in that feeling and act on opportunities as they present themselves.  With these simple tools you can make a dramatic difference in your life.
Michael Busby has worked with Mr. Scherer in the past.

You may visit Mike at www.busby-lee.com

Busby P.C. 2909 Hillcroft Suite 350

Houston, Texas 77057

(713) 974-1151

 

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Author:

I am a member of the State Bar of Texas, the Houston Bar Association, the Houston Association of Debtor's Attorneys and I am admitted to practice in the Federal Courts in the Southern District of Texas. I have three children and a wife. I have been married for over 20 years. I spent 4 years in the USMC from 1989 to 1993. I spent another 4 years from 1993 to 1997 in the National Guard for the states of Arkansas, Oklahoma, and North Carolina. Prior to becoming an attorney in 2002, I was a licensed funeral director in Oklahoma and North Carolina. I enlisted in the United States Marine Corps and served as a Field Artillery Cannoner from 1989 to 1993. I received my Bachelor of Science degree with honors from the University of Central Oklahoma in 1996. I graduated from South Texas College of Law in Houston, Texas. I am a member of the Phi Delta Phi International Law fraternity and authored an international law legal article in a law journal published by South Texas College of Law. I have been faithfully married for 18 years and is the proud father of two daughters, Viktoria and Hannah Busby and father of Willam Maximus "Billy Max" Busby.